so today i picked up my rims.. i took em to a shop to get the lip grinded down and poilished.. they look perfect now.. but cost a pretty penny.. .. so case closed. pain in the ass. dumb mistake. ah well live and learn.. can't wait to put em on..
-> general rule for anyone leaving their rims with someone else - KEEP Your rim caps with you.. just in case whomever is working on your rims looses em..
thx for those who responded with useful info